Failure is perceived to be a point of disgrace by everyone in public. We fret it, we try to avoid it and we question ourselves every time of our unconventional ideas. But the truth is that success was never achieved without a failure. One such example is Edison’s 10,000 attempts to create a light bulb.
For every journey, failure is necessary. It is the stepping stone to achieve desired dreams. When a person fails he gets an opportunity to look into the mistakes he did before he failed. He is compelled to introspect, talk to himself so he can get into the intricacies of the pathway he undertook.
Failures bring with them unbearable pain and anguish which has multidimensional repercussions- many analyze the reason of failures, gather the courage to fight back, many of them quit, some take extreme steps. The last one is the escapist way of cowards which is evil in itself. This shows the lack of fighting spirit in the person.
Failures take time to heal. The failed person has to fight his way out with many fronts. He has to face the change in the situations and people near to him. A slight reduction in the number of dear ones apart from family and close friends is observed. A changed attitude is also noticed by behavioral scientists towards the ones who feel they have been failed by peers, colleagues, and friends. There is re-setting of perspective towards him, which is bi-dimensional in nature.
Both Success and failures shape the perspectives of people towards the person. For example; after the tremendous success of the Indian team in women’s cricket world 2017, despite numerous failures in finals depicted a different type of perspective as captain Mithali Raj mentioned in her speech in the post-match ceremony.
“There will be a change in perspective when women cricket will be watched now“
She was referring to the upcoming changed perspective towards the capabilities of women cricket team in the international arena.
The bitter truth is that on being failed, all the decisions, pathways, activities of the person come under the scanner. He is criticized for every little thing. Such situations bring with it the real challenge of being failed. They may be referred to as the after-effects of failures.
Constant attention, care, respect, and overall pre-failure status quo towards the person restore faith in oneself. As said by Simone Weill ‘ Philosopher.
“Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity”
A person gathers courage and conviction to fight back after learning from the failure. Henry Ford observes that,
“The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing”.
Restoration of courage to bounce back after failure emboldens the person’s indomitable will. A person becomes more powerful– strikes harder, he is stronger physically, mentally, and spiritually, attains a level of maturity.
These things are noticed when players of cricket, football, tennis, basketball are dropped from the national team because of failure or underperformances. Dennis Whitley observed,
“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker, failure is delay not defeat. It is a temporary detours, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing and being nothing“
Achievers describe failures in different ways. They always bat for perseverance and fight back strongly. They always look for options and if there aren’t any, they create one. No matter what. Quitting is never an option. It gives prolonged regrets. Lance Armstrong shared on failures as
“Pain is temporary, quitting lasts forever.”
The fighting spirit among youth, sportspersons, politicians, and entrepreneurs have been rightly observed by poet Allama Iqbal.
Nahi hai na-umeed Iqbal apne kasht-e-veeraan se
Zara namm ho to ye mitti bohot zarkhes hai Saqi
But of his barren acres Iqbal will not despair:
A little rain and harvests shall wave, at last, oh Saki!
So, dealing with failures is the person’s decision. He can either continue to sulk for all the mistakes that he did or he can start afresh by gaining all the strength that is required to stand again.