Why Do We Fail in Our Life ?

Why Do We Fail in Our Life ?


“When we give ourselves permission to fail, we, at the same time, give ourselves permission to excel.” – Eloise Ristad

Success always starts with failure. If you have a close look at some of the most successful individuals that ever lived, you’ll realize that they all failed most of the time. Some of these people were widely considered to be massive failures in their life. But they all managed to turn things around.

The question is how they did transform their failure into success?

First of all they discovered the reasons for their failures, learned important lessons from it and changed how they think about failure. Because Failure teaches us two important lessons.

The first lesson is that we’re doing something completely wrong. The second lesson does not only teach us that we can always overcome failure. It primarily teaches us that we must get back up and continue the pursuit of our dreams. If we don’t learn these lessons, we will remain lying on the ground not knowing what happened.

There are 10 following points will not only show you the reasons why people fail in life. It will also show you how you can avoid these mistakes and what you can do to be successful instead.

Even more importantly, this post will help you to discover the great power of failure. We all fail. This cannot be prevented. But we always have the choice to use these painful experiences to grow stronger in the future.

10 Major Reasons for Failure

1. Lack of self-discipline

Success requires discipline. As such, exerting self-control over yourself is a central requirement for being successful. If you lack self-discipline, you’re more likely to give up too quickly when problems arise.

2. Lack of planning

If you don’t have a proper plan, you are less likely to succeed in life. It doesn’t matter if the plan is imperfect or if things are not going to work out exactly as planned. All that matters is that you have a plan. It will help you to steer all your actions in one direction. Without a clear plan, you’ll most likely go left, right, forwards and backwards, but you’ll never come closer to your goals.

3. Lack of belief in yourself

Intelligence and talent are not necessarily what separates successful people from unsuccessful ones. The major difference lies in the fact that successful individuals believe in themselves. They believe that they can accomplish the goals they set themselves.

They believe in their ability to find solutions to the challenges they are confronted with. Successful people understand that nothing will work for them if they are not absolutely convinced of it.

4. Lack of persistence

You can be talented and intelligent. But if you don’t combine these two with persistence, you’ll fail eventually. A lack of persistence is a great obstacle to success. There are so many incredibly talented and gifted people who fail again and again because they rely too much on their talents. They are not willing to persist until they’ve completely mastered what they’re doing. Instead, they quit when the going gets tough.

5. Fear of failure

Being afraid of failure paralyzes us. It makes us reluctant to seize rewarding opportunities. We fear failure, which is why we don’t even try. But isn’t that the greatest failure of all? Isn’t not trying worse than failing? As rightly said by Winston Churchill, “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”

6. Wanting too much too quickly

A great number of people dream of accomplishing the greatest things. They set themselves incredibly challenging goals, but are quickly intimidated once they realize how high the mountain they’re standing in front rises into the sky. Consequently, they quickly become discouraged because of a lack of results.

7. Excuses

If you blame other people for your own mistakes and problems, you are destined to fail. Successful individuals don’t allow excuses to stand between themselves and their goals. They understand that making excuses will lead them nowhere. For this reason, they resist the temptation of finding a “feel-good excuse,” accept responsibility for their actions and start taking matters into their own hands.

8. Unwillingness to network

You’ll miss quite a number of opportunities if you don’t invest time to build strong relationships with those who can help you. Unfortunately, many underestimate the importance of networking. Our relationships can help us to reach out to others and to convince them of working with us, not against us. Networking helps us to meet exactly those people whose interests align with our own.

9. Refusal to learn from past mistakes

Unsuccessful people are deeply hurt by their mistakes and failures. As a result, they do everything they can to quickly forget these painful experiences. The problem with this attitude is that doing so does also bury the important lessons and insights that come with these mistakes.

10. Inability to overcome distractions

A person’s ability to ignore distractions can be a central factor for success. The way you deal with distractions can either make or break your success. On the one side, if you are unable to withstand the temptation of distracting yourself, your workflow will suffer from it.

If you continuously switch from Facebook to Twitter to Instagram, you’ll lose sight of what is really important. Even worse, you will be less likely to focus all your attention on the task at hand, which worsens the output.

On the other side, if you have the necessary mental strength to abstain from these distractions while working, you will be much more productive.


Shamshad Alam
Shamshad Alam, Entrepreneur at The Inspire India

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    Nice thought.useful article

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